Are you shaming yourself?

I've recently given up shaming the crap out of myself for guilty pleasures. Hence, my latest Netflix binge/obsession. 

 It's a show called Ginny & Georgia—a coming-of-age-meets-mother-daughter-thriller where survival means staying one step ahead, and safety is a luxury no one actually feels.

It got me thinking about how good we are at storytelling—not just the kind we stream, but the ones we live. 

The ones our minds, fueled by our nervous systems, spin on autopilot to feel safe.

Yep. That overachieving bundle of wires designed to keep you alive… is also the reason you keep shrinking, stalling, people-pleasing, or over-prepping that scary conversation like it's a NASA launch.

 We should all know by now that our nervous systems can't tell the difference between a real threat—like a bear chasing you—and a perceived threat—like giving feedback to your team or saying “no” to a demanding client (or child).

And when your body senses danger, it responds the same way it would if you were running for your life.

Which means, 

You lose access to your creativity. 

Your intuition goes dark.
Your authentic power? On mute.

It's not rocket science why so many high-functioning, high-integrity humans feel stuck!

Because success without safety doesn't stick, and clarity without regulation doesn't land.

Nervous systems don't respond to logic—they respond to felt safety.

So what's a gal or guy to do?

• We stop fighting the system and start working with it.

• We recognize when we're activated.

• We pause.

• We breathe (like… actually breathe).

• We choose, from calm—not from fear.

And with consistent practice, we begin to sync to something deeper—what I call your Soul Signal. The part of you that's clear, wise, creative, and sovereign. The part that knows.

This week, try this:
Just notice.
Where does your nervous system hijack you most often?
What does it feel like?
And what would change if you made a different choice from a regulated state?

I break it all down in this week's Monday Muse (click below).  

Our nervous systems have been running the show for far too long, and it's time for us to take the mic back, which brings us back to me and my now guiltless pleasures  (yes, guilt is your nervous system on overdrive).

What habit of your nervous system might you give up this week?