Are You on a Self Improvement Journey?

I see this way too often. You're self-aware (anywhere from a self-help enthusiast to a licensed therapist to a Spiritual Savant), and yet, you find yourself in another toxic love relationship (or no relationship at all), still having money woes, or circling the same drain at work. 

You do all the things, and you're still exhausted, irritable, and beside yourself with why you aren't over it!

We, the experts (and you may or may not be one of them), talk about “reprogramming the mind” like it's a settings update.

 It's a useful metaphor, but the problem comes due to a much bigger truth that, by design, we miss. 

The fact is, you can't drag your ego into the digital trash and install enlightenment.

You may understand that intellectually, but I need you to go deeper here because “loving yourself,” meditating harder, breath work, journaling more, shouting your gratitude from the hills, or finding the right modality won't unlock your freedom.

Meditate on this: The same program that created your illness, drove your overachieving (albeit successful) career, and hurled you into the eager arms of narcissists, is now running your personal growth, spirituality, and “healing.”

The ego didn't die. It just put on mala beads and started calling itself evolved. 

Here are three signs you may be Spiritual Overachieving:

• Watch for "Fixing Energy." Do you perpetually ask, “Now what?”

• See if you check-list presence rather than experience it

• Notice if you allow big negative emotions when they are warranted or if you stuff them.

Here's what to do:

• Ask: Am I doing this practice to connect with myself—or to fix myself?

• Stop tracking your healing. Start noticing moments of genuine connection, joy, ease, and aliveness.

• Instead of trying to override your anxiety, anger, or fear—try sitting with it.
  Name it. Feel it. Let it move. This is nervous system fluency—not control.

Bottom Line: You can't white-knuckle your way to inner peace any more than you can “love” with your mind. Furthermore, the more you strive to “fix” yourself, the more you reinforce the belief that you're broken.

But when you remember who you really are—and bring presence to the part of you that's striving—transformation becomes inevitable.

So if you're ready to stop hustling for worthiness and start leading from the inside out, you're in the right place.