E62 Defensiveness and Overthinking: Why Smart People Get Stuck

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Episode Summary |

Why do smart, self-aware people still get reactive, defensive, and stuck in conflict at work and at home?

In this episode of The Intuition Incubator, I sit down with leadership coach and communication strategist Amy Wong to unpack the hidden mechanics behind reactivity, power struggles, and communication breakdowns.

Together, we explore why we get addicted to being right, how the nervous system hijacks leadership and relationships, and the simple “spotlight shift” that restores clarity, connection, and true alignment.

If you’re tired of overthinking, conflict, or feeling emotionally hijacked despite knowing better, this conversation offers a grounded, practical way forward.


Chapters |

00:00 Introduction and Connection

02:05 Amy's Journey: From Mathematician to Intuition Advocate

04:16 The Catalyst of Motherhood: Awakening to True Self

10:48 Spotlight Shift: Focusing on Service Over Self

18:14 Bridging Divides: Constructive Communication in Teams

27:29 The Neuroscience of Validation and Conflict

29:45 Practices for Reestablishing Harmony in Relationships

31:09 Shifting Focus: From Self to Collective Desires

34:35 The Power of Self-Awareness and Emotional Agency

37:37 Radical Accountability: Taking Charge of Your Feelings

40:50 Understanding Others: The Key to Compassion and Forgiveness

42:13 The Interconnectedness of Personal and Professional Growth

44:14 Finding Common Ground in a Divided World

Guest Resources |

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyelizawong/ https://www.instagram.com/amyelizawong/ https://amyelizawong.com/

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