E57 49 Days in Darkness: The Journey That Changed Everything

Oct 16

Written By Ella London

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Episode Summary |

In this powerful conversation, Traver Boehm, founder of Man UNcivilized and author of 28 Days in Darkness, joins me to explore the crisis and rebirth of modern masculinity. We talk about shadow work, men’s mental health, trauma healing, emotional intelligence, nervous-system regulation, and the midlife search for purpose.

Traver shares what he learned from spending 49 days in total darkness—and why the greatest challenge a man can face isn’t an Ironman race or a business empire, but the courage to meet himself. Together, we unpack the confusion between men and women in the post-MeToo era, the cost of numbing through achievement, and how reconnecting to feeling, presence, and authenticity brings life back into full color.

If you’ve ever wondered why success feels empty, why relationships feel like war zones, or why modern men feel lost, this episode is your invitation to return home to yourself.

Chapters |

00:00 The State of Masculinity and Femininity

07:07 The Impact of COVID and Social Movements

13:03 Navigating Relationships in a Changing World

18:51 Understanding Male Desire and Safety

24:33 The Role of Men in Modern Society

29:48 Lessons on Safety and Vulnerability

32:38 Understanding Sexual Needs and Desires

37:03 The Impact of Masculinity on Relationships

41:15 The Call to Action for Men

46:35 The Importance of Being Known

53:06 Facing Fear and Embracing Darkness